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Anger Management FAQs

An ongoing series of informational entries

Our First Blog Entry

January 15, 2017

How do I know I need anger management?

The fact is that everyone can benefit from anger management as we are never taught how to manage anger and other emotions and therefore lack tools. You do not need to be a very angry person or a violent or aggressive person to benefit. Some of our clients bottle up and don't really know how to communicate, others avoid issues and become resentful and negative over time, whilst some engage in passive-aggressive behaviour such as sulking, moodiness or sabotage. The more obvious tell-tale signs that you need anger management is when you can answer yes to some of these behaviours:

  • You argue and fight a lot, even over silly and small things
  • You blame others all the time
  • You are impatient, easily irritated, frustrated and intolerant
  • You play the tit for tat game
  • You are revengeful and feel you need to teach people lessons or punish them
  • You display anger, aggressiveness or even road rage
  • You are very defensive and feel that others are triggering you all the time

Is anger management like going to therapy?

No. Anger management is called a psycho-educational programme. This means we teach you practical tools, interventions, concepts and coping strategies to be able to handle a variety of challenges and feel in control. Whilst not a quick fix, our programme is highly effective and you will see positive changes early on in the programme. Therapy can go on for a long period of time whereas our programme has a set duration and can be concluded in 4- 6 sessions.

Is anger bad and will I learn not to be angry?

Anger itself is not typically the problem as it is a normal, natural human emotion. The problem lies more with how we behave when we are angry. We usually react without thinking and cause problems and damage. By repeating these inappropriate behaviours, they become bad habits and we default to doing the wrong things. The tools allow new habits to develop which displace the bad ones and over time, when you get angry, you don't cause any problems. You are in control and are not abusive. We must say that many of our clients to become calmer over time and less angry.

Is getting angry a problem?

Usually it is because we lack control and tools, so when we act out in anger we impact others negatively and cause problems. This gives rise to conflict, relationship breakdown, stress and even poor health and depression. We need to get help with our mis-managed anger so that we have healthier and happier lives.

What can I expect in my session?

Your first session will include an assessment plus we will take some history so that we are clear why you felt you need to see us and to understand what is going on. What are you concerned about? What are the issues and problems? What are your triggers? What do you do? How often? Is there domestic violence? Is there stress? Are you on medication or have you been diagnosed with anything? Once we have this clearer picture we will commence with the programme so that you go away with useful and practical tools and support. In future sessions you will give feedback on how things have been for you, what challenges came up and how you handled these. Thereafter we continue with the programme and build on what has already been learned.